also this, developing major crush on amitabh bachchan
from laawaris (1981)
also this, developing major crush on amitabh bachchan
from laawaris (1981)
sick! from sholay (1975)
Before I went to work we were under the olive tree and
you were doing what you called psych patient smoking
and you said, I don’t want to be Satan but will you join
me and we pulled up our shirts to rub bellies and yours
was so much flatter but filled with garden bread anyway
anyway up went our shirts, solar to solar plexus, and it
was a comforting ritual we daily did and I said, Let’s do
this for the rest of our lives. You said, You look lovely.
It’s hard to remember tender things tenderly.
- karen green, from bough down
your poly is only politicaly relevant to me if…
- you center respect and love for women and femmes in how you do relationships.
- you understand and care about how your actions in relationships are directly connected to the well being of your communities. (y’all know that this shit breaks up friendships and communities all the time.)
- you are aware of and work to resist heterosexist and patriarchal notions of love that are grounded in ideas of capitalist property ownership, misogyny, and racism.
- you respect any and all of your partners.
- you do not pit your partners, hookups, or love interests against each other by being shady and shitty about communication — especially if you are masculine-identified and your partners, hookups, and love interests are women and femmes. *of course, when this happens, it’s “unintentional,” right? but when misogyny structures how we understand and do relationships in such concrete ways, you need to fucking fight as hard as you can to actually BE intentional. being unintentional in the way of, “oh it just happened,” or, “but i didn’t do anything wrong,” when what is naturalized is being careless about the relationships between women and femmes, then not having intentions or thoughts around all that is a problem.
- you understand the importance of (and work to center) the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs and boundaries of yourself and your partners.
- you understand how each of your relationships impacts all of the other ones. and you understand that the way you carry yourself in one relationship will show up in your other relationships.
- you do not dismiss your partners’ jealousies, insecurities, or negative feelings as just them being “jealous” or “too emotional” or “not really getting it.” you don’t blame or shame people for their emotions.
- you accept full accountability for your actions when you are hurtful, unintentional, or careless in your interactions with others.
- you do not dismiss others’ concerns about you being possibly disrespectful or misogynistic as them not being radical or sex-positive enough.
- you understand that having the space/freedom to love and fuck however you please does NOT mean that you are operating in a vacuum. you understand that everything you do has consequences - and act with care.
- you understand that poly is not about having the freedom to do whatever the fuck you want to. you understand that poly is about having the freedom to pursue your needs and desires openly without shame, and to hold yourself to being intentional and responsible. especially because those needs or desires are about OTHER PEOPLE and OTHER PEOPLE’S BODIES.
- you get that you are not entitled to the guarantee that everything you do/want will be okay with all your partners or your communities, esp when your actions will impact them and when people are always operating from different contexts, traumas, desires, needs. (aka, you don’t do disrespectful shit and expect your partners or friends not to respond just because you didn’t mean to hurt anybody.)
- you understand the importance of informed consent — meaning, if there are things that are going on that might even possibly make someone reconsider cuddling with you, having sex with you, or being intimate with you, then you need to be open about them.
- you don’t take consent for granted. ever.
- you know how to set, talk about, and respect boundaries.
- you don’t use your “poly” status to be emotionally neglectful and/or abusive to your partners.
- you don’t treat people like they are expendable, disposable, or otherwise meaningless, even if it’s a quick fuck or a fling.
- you communicate openly and honestly without withholding important information, especially when it’s hard.
the desire to love/fuck lots of people at the same time is not something inherently radical or meaningful. people have always wanted to love/fuck multiple people, whether or not that’s been in accountable ways. basically, if people are side-eying you about how you do poly/relationships it’s not always because they’re just colonized sex negative tools of the state or some shit lol.
(and thanks disorientd, seafoamknife, & lowendtheory for talking/thinking through a lot of this with me. all love. ♥)
this is really really really important i think
few are the smiles i have sought with such relentlessness…
tonight we’re gonna keep this city up when they hear our bodies slap together like applause
From the first Christopher Street Liberation Day Parade; June 28, 1970.
Old school queer anti-militarism
it’s tracey from the past!!!!!!!!!!!
The most fun amazing beautiful months I’ve ever experienced where in the building.
my heart is breaking.
ying yang tennis arm
arm on tattoo has tattoo of ying yang tennis arm
A street flyer spotted in Minneapolis this weekend.
1. OMG HOW CAN YOU COMPARE RAPPERS LIKE IGGY AZALEA AND KREASHAWN TO BLACKFACE MINSTRELS?
Blackface was all about white people acting out caricatured, fetishised depictions of black people for the entertainment of white audiences. Iggy Azalea, Kreashawn etc. are all about… well, you get the picture. Their entire careers rely on them perpetually acting, talking and behaving like college students at an ironic-not-racist-but-actually-racist ‘Ghetto Fabulous’ themed frat party.
2. ARE YOU SAYING IGGY AZALEA IS RACIST?
Let’s not even start on this: http://diaryofahollywoodstreetking.com/iggy-azalea-leads-racist-twitter-rant/
I’m sure Iggy Azalea doesn’t think Iggy Azalea is racist. In fact, she thinks SHE is the one being oppressed. These are her words in response to Eve saying she wasn’t a fan:
“Everybody is different, everybody hasn’t lived out of the box and for you to even know if it’s real, you have to kind of be an out-the-box person or somebody who likes something they’re not suppose to. A girl like her that raps is expected, so, how could you understand something so different?
Right. (1) Rap is some kind of forbidden love for a girl like Iggy, (2) OMG black people like Eve rapping are SO CLICHÉ! How could they possibly understand something as brilliant and original as an white Australian who makes money by doing a bad impression of a black woman? Also, you don’t call Eve ‘girl.’
“I’m not mad at [Eve] for not understanding it,” she continued. “How could you if you’ve never been ostracized or loved something you weren’t suppose to love? Everything you’ve loved you’re allowed to love, so, how could you understand me? … I don’t give a fuck if you think I am (real) or not ’cause that girl in the crowd understand it and that’s who it’s for, if you don’t then it’s not for you.”
Okay, so (1) WHERE DOES A WHITE RAPPER GET OFF TELLING A BLACK WOMAN THAT SHE HAS ‘NEVER BEEN OSTRACISED’ AND ALWAYS BEEN ALLOWED TO LOVE WHAT SHE WANTS???
(2) WTF is this about ‘not being allowed to love’ rap??? Asher Roth predictably says similar things – that growing up he felt alienated by the Hip-Hop he listened to because he didn’t feel ‘represented.’
PLEASE UNDERSTAND THIS. COMMERCIAL HIP-HOP IS DESIGNED FOR WHITE PEOPLE. WHITE PEOPLE ARE THE VAST, OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF HIP-HOP’S CONSUMER BASE. WHITE PEOPLE ARE THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF WESTERN CONSUMERS, FULL STOP. HIP-HOP MUST MEET WHITE PEOPLE’S DEMANDS IN ORDER TO BE FINANCIALLY VIABLE CONTENT FOR ADVERTISERS ON TV, RADIO AND THE INTERNET. HIP-HOP AS AN INDUSTRY SURVIVES ON WHITE PEOPLE’S MONEY. HIP-HOP AS A PRODUCT RELIES ON APPEALING TO THE WHIMS OF ITS PREDOMINANTLY WHITE FANBASE. COMMERCIALLY SUCCESSFUL HIP-HOP REFLECTS THE DESIRES AND TASTES OF WHITE PEOPLE. HIP-HOP IS ONE OF WHITE AMERICA’S FAVOURITE FORMS OF ESCAPE, WHERE YOU GET TO PROJECT AND LIVE OUT FANTASIES ABOUT SEX AND VIOLENCE THROUGH PEOPLE OF COLOUR. YOU ARE NOT ‘OUTSIDERS’ TO HIP-HOP, YOU ACTUALLY CONTROL ITS PRODUCTION, FORM AND DISTRIBUTION JUST BY BEING WHITE.
You are not being excluded. I promise.
3. ARE YOU SAYING WHITE PEOPLE AREN’T ALLOWED TO RAP?
White people can and will do whatever the fuck they want regardless of what I might think or say.
This is one of my favourite gems from Iggy: “This idea that rap should be black… is worrying to me. It’s almost like segregation…isn’t that how conflict (!!?!) starts?”
Um, no. Actually, it’s nothing like segregation. And no, people thinking you and your fake, manufactured shit have no place in a culture built on authenticity is not how racism and wars started. Benevolent white people like you who want to forcibly colonise, appropriate and redefine other people’s culture and history are how racism and wars started.
4. REALLY? THE JIMMY FALLON/ JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE ‘HISTORY OF RAP’ SKITS? REACHING, BRAH.
If you say so. Two douchebag whiteboys doing Hip-Hop karaoke using THE ROOTS as a jukebox? Really? Presenting someone else’s art and history (badly) while the coloured folks play backup? While BLACK THOUGHT stands by and watches? Black Thought is one of the best MCs out and - if you’ve heard his mixtape with J. Period - can actually do incredible impersonations of other rappers. But that doesn’t matter, because being rich and white like Fallon and Timberlake means you can ride off other people’s talent, history and cultural capital just for kicks while a white studio audience cheers you on.
PART 2 of this is here: http://aamerrahman.tumblr.com/post/54317063776/white-rapper-faq-part-2